Use The Following Tips !
Maintain a strong front
It's ok to feel a need to get back with your ex but you need to keep your Posture and Self Control.
Not many women are attracted to weak needy men. I doubt these attributes are what caught your ex eye when the two of you first met, right? So why on earth would you want to act desperate in your attempts to get your ex back? If anything, this is a time to prove to the world, and more importantly, to yourself that you will persevere through this troubled time and come out a stronger person. Yes, this is easy to say than done but you must do it to regain the attraction your ex had for you in the beginning.
Cut off contact with your ex
It is important that you resist the urge to call, text or email your ex immediately after the break up. The last thing your ex wants right now is to hear from you, especially if it is to tell her she has made a mistake or to beg her to take you back. She desperately needs a break from you and most women at least the ones worth trying to win back, are not going to rush out and jump in bed with the next man they meet...you should give her some time and space.
You may send hand-written letter (the old fashioned way) and drop it in the mail box. You want to let your ex know that you understand her decision and respect her feelings about the situation. You are hurt of course but you understand she did what she had to do. Let her know that you are going to take some time to figure out where you went wrong so you won't make similar mistakes in the future. End the note by wishing her all the best and apologize for hurting her. The idea is to give each of you some time to accept the situation and work through your emotional upset
After some time, plan a very short phone call. Just call and say that you wanted to see how he/she was doing. You will know from her response if the call is appreciated or not. If things look favorable then you can ask about calling back or even getting together for a cup of coffee, lunch, or a drink.
Remember you must begin very slowly. The coffee, lunch or drink meeting should have a time limit to it say 45 minutes to an hour. The reason why it is so important to keep the outing really short so that you will avoid talking about the break up and you leave your ex interested in wanting to spend more time with you or wanting to have another outing since the outing was so short. The short outing also leaves you with more to talk about next time.
Re-discover yourself
Take a hard look at the relationship, the problems it had and how you contributed to them. Try to reflect back on what your ex found attractive in you in the first place. Think long and hard about those early days, revive them in your head and pinpoint exactly what attributes your ex found attractive in you. You might find that you need to pay more attention to the way you dress, your personal hygiene, your organizational skills, your negative attitudes, or any other number of things that could be improved on.
It is vital to take this time of rediscovering and concentrate on the strong, confident mature individual she met in the first place. The man, who didn't mind the long walks through the park on Sunday, or the cuddling before and after sex, or the mind numbing "how was your day" talks, etc. The point is to grow as a person during this break from your ex.
You will find that more than likely you played a very big role in why your ex is now your ex. There may still be a chance to get her back but you must first work through these vital steps (and many others) before you make contact with her in an attempt to get your ex back.
After you and your ex have had a lot of dates and you are best friends again, it's time to see exactly where you stand with your ex and see if there is a possibility about you and your ex getting back together. If you ex shows a positive response to your company and approach, you could be back together already or very soon.
If you get back together, you must stay away from whatever it was that caused you and your ex to break up in the first place. Make sure you still continue to make the relationship exciting even though you are back together.
The above are just some simple techniques I learned from TW Jackson' Magic Of Making Up. It is only a small fraction of it. There are much much more to be learned. For a complete and comprehensive step by step strategy and blueprint on how to get your ex back, please download "Magic Of Making Up".
