Getting A Lover Back -- How To Do It?

Having a broken heart and feeling depressed after a break up? Having no idea how to get your ex back? The picture on the left is a representation of how sad and frustrated a person can be when she lost her lover in a relationship or being dumped. No doubt about it, breaking up is one of the saddest times of a person's life. It is a memory packed with pains, hurts and other Mixed Emotions which can put your partner to be down in the dumps. However, do not think this is the end of the world. You can fix it out too just like what I did!

I created this Blog to share with you some basic steps on how you can get your ex or lover back. I may not be an expert relationship advisor or counselor but I did manage to win back the love and confidence of my wife when our marriage was on the rock by applying some techniques I learned from TW Jackson, who has secretly helped over 50.000 people in 77 countries ... He is the author of the book "Magic Of Making Up".

I'll start off by telling you why lovers leave each other. Thereafter some pointers on what you should avoid doing when that happens followed by some recommendations on how to salvage the relationship. Getting back a lover may sound common sense as you read along but regret to say, many of us have neglected and failed to understand the significance behind all the so called "common sense" when actually these basics work like magic when you ponder through and apply them.

Getting A Lover Back -- Why Lovers Leave

Most couples just don't get it.....

Most men AND women are very confused when someone they care for deeply exits a relationship. Their ex boyfriends, girlfriends and spouses give MANY and various reasons why they left. They give so many reasons that when put together sometimes make No sense. To complicate matter, it seems the "reasons" change every time you ask!

Same here, I did not understand why my wife of 17 years still not happy when I cared and love for her so much until..please read on...

The good news is there is one core reason why men leave women...and also one core reason why women leave men.

They are very different...and you are about to learn THE REAL REASON which is NOT only crucial for you to understand if you want ANY chance of getting them back but also will help you keep the relationship on track once you are back together.

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Why Men Leave?

Women, Please Listen up....

Men want to feel ADMIRED! When they stop feeling admired, this is a major frontal attack on not only their self esteem, but calls their "manhood" into question. Now this may sound simple but when you give it a serious thought, you will realize how true it really is. Remember the time when you first met him, you put on your best outfit on date with him and often giving him support and compliments but most importantly you were VERY HAPPY when he's around.

If the man does not feel like he is getting that ego boost or that attention that makes him feel like a real man anymore, he will want to leave and get it somewhere else. Men crave that attention and they really want to feel like the women is interested in him. Once the admiration is gone and the interest is gone, well then so is the relationship.

To a man:

HAPPY WOMAN = ADMIRATION

THIS IS WHY thousands of men polled on the recurring reasons over and over about why a man left was the following statement:

"No matter what I did...I couldn't make her happy anymore".

Yes, this is exactly how I felt, I did my best to provide my wife with all the necessities but just dun understand why she's not happy.

T.W Jackson explains this very well. Here are some examples coming from his system "Magic Of Making Up".

Why Women Leave?

Men, You Love Them A Lot, but....

Women are truly amazing. They can put up with a lot of crap without ever thinking about leaving a relationship as long as they feel ONE primary emotion. And if they feel this one emotion, they are incredibly loyal!

Women Want Attention and Crave APPRECIATION
The most common remark and underlying message when women expressed their disappointment and unhappiness was.

"He never appreciated anything I did for him!"
Now let's be honest about it, when a woman stops feeling appreciated, your relationship is in big trouble. Even if you can suppress it, she will never be happy in the marriage. Times are different now, divorce rate in the world is high and increasing. Women are no longer conventional like their ancestors where once married would stick to their husband for life whatever the circumstances.

A woman will not stay in a relationship and WILL LEAVE if she feels that you do not appreciate her...
This is one of the underlying reasons why infidelity is so devastating to a woman. If you have had an affair, they immediately feel that YOU have ZERO appreciation for them...
And this is always and usually why the very first question after a woman learns of an infidelity is ...."Do You Love Her?" asking if you love the woman you had the affair with..or was it just a fling?

T.W. Jackson also explains it in great detail why women leave men in his system. Here is how he explains it in "Magic Of Making Up".

Getting A Lover Back -- What Not To Do If I Want My Ex Back

Don't make these mistakes

Sometimes a relationship ends regardless of how carefully we work at saving it. This is often due to a one-time incident or it may be related to problems that have not been acknowledged and letting the momentum built over time.

Right after a break up both you and your ex will be very emotional. Depending on the circumstances and your individual personalities, the emotions will range from total anger and frustration to hurt or even depression.

Because of the intensity of the emotions it is usually wise to take a break before attempting any type of interaction with your ex. Therefore do not start calling your ex and leave a lot of voice mails. Do not start leaving text messages saying "I miss you, I need you back, I am sorry, I will change, I need you, why would you leave, bla bla bla and so on....

Don't Beg or Plead

Basically do not beg, do not make yourself sound desperate and do not make yourself sound pathetic!!! Very simple, I dun think you like it when people come up to you and ask you to make them feel better over and over and over again. Similarly, you dun like it when someone says

"Please be with me, I'm going to die without you"

Remember that begging and pleading with your lover only strengthens the desire to get away from you. It's ok to feel a need to get back with your ex but you need to keep your Posture and Self Control.

I can relate to this because I apologized continuously to my wife when she just left me, she was not moved but in fact got annoyed and refused to pick up my calls for days. In fact the moment she heard my voice, she just hanged up! The situation only improved when I left her alone and reflected on myself.

The reason you behave like this is because you start to panic. In fact, panic is the enemy.

Don't Panic

Panic Equals Desperation - Desperation and being hot headed are the enemies. The Panic you feel comes from the immediate loss of control that you experience. By losing control of the relationship you panic. You need to take a step back and form a plan of attack to get her back without her knowing what you are up to. This may sound impossible at the moment but getting all freaked out, desperate and stalking her all over town will only end in failure and make you look like an idiot. The first thing you want to do is think. Think about how you can get back on track and the right way to do it. If you just panic, you will only make the situation worse. This is where most people really mess it up for themselves.

So remember DONT PANIC, THINK!

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Getting A Lover Back -- What To Do If I Want My Ex Back

Use The Following Tips !

Maintain a strong front

It's ok to feel a need to get back with your ex but you need to keep your Posture and Self Control.

Not many women are attracted to weak needy men. I doubt these attributes are what caught your ex eye when the two of you first met, right? So why on earth would you want to act desperate in your attempts to get your ex back? If anything, this is a time to prove to the world, and more importantly, to yourself that you will persevere through this troubled time and come out a stronger person. Yes, this is easy to say than done but you must do it to regain the attraction your ex had for you in the beginning.

Cut off contact with your ex

It is important that you resist the urge to call, text or email your ex immediately after the break up. The last thing your ex wants right now is to hear from you, especially if it is to tell her she has made a mistake or to beg her to take you back. She desperately needs a break from you and most women at least the ones worth trying to win back, are not going to rush out and jump in bed with the next man they meet...you should give her some time and space.

You may send hand-written letter (the old fashioned way) and drop it in the mail box. You want to let your ex know that you understand her decision and respect her feelings about the situation. You are hurt of course but you understand she did what she had to do. Let her know that you are going to take some time to figure out where you went wrong so you won't make similar mistakes in the future. End the note by wishing her all the best and apologize for hurting her. The idea is to give each of you some time to accept the situation and work through your emotional upset

After some time, plan a very short phone call. Just call and say that you wanted to see how he/she was doing. You will know from her response if the call is appreciated or not. If things look favorable then you can ask about calling back or even getting together for a cup of coffee, lunch, or a drink.

Remember you must begin very slowly. The coffee, lunch or drink meeting should have a time limit to it say 45 minutes to an hour. The reason why it is so important to keep the outing really short so that you will avoid talking about the break up and you leave your ex interested in wanting to spend more time with you or wanting to have another outing since the outing was so short. The short outing also leaves you with more to talk about next time.

Re-discover yourself

Take a hard look at the relationship, the problems it had and how you contributed to them. Try to reflect back on what your ex found attractive in you in the first place. Think long and hard about those early days, revive them in your head and pinpoint exactly what attributes your ex found attractive in you. You might find that you need to pay more attention to the way you dress, your personal hygiene, your organizational skills, your negative attitudes, or any other number of things that could be improved on.

It is vital to take this time of rediscovering and concentrate on the strong, confident mature individual she met in the first place. The man, who didn't mind the long walks through the park on Sunday, or the cuddling before and after sex, or the mind numbing "how was your day" talks, etc. The point is to grow as a person during this break from your ex.

You will find that more than likely you played a very big role in why your ex is now your ex. There may still be a chance to get her back but you must first work through these vital steps (and many others) before you make contact with her in an attempt to get your ex back.

After you and your ex have had a lot of dates and you are best friends again, it's time to see exactly where you stand with your ex and see if there is a possibility about you and your ex getting back together. If you ex shows a positive response to your company and approach, you could be back together already or very soon.

If you get back together, you must stay away from whatever it was that caused you and your ex to break up in the first place. Make sure you still continue to make the relationship exciting even though you are back together.

The above are just some simple techniques I learned from TW Jackson' Magic Of Making Up. It is only a small fraction of it. There are much much more to be learned. For a complete and comprehensive step by step strategy and blueprint on how to get your ex back, please download "Magic Of Making Up".

Magic of Making Up - What Is It About?

Magic of Making Up is an instantly downloadable 62 page eBook which gives you a complete list of the Do's and Don'ts about being back with your partner. The author TW Jackson takes you from the painful point where you've just broken up all the way to the point where you finally get to hold the love of your life in your arms once again. The best part is, it's done in a way that is without hype, just pure, actionable steps that really can help you win your ex back for good.

It's also written in an easy to understand manner, and it does so without even a hint of lecture. There is no finger pointing or blame harped on in the book. It is simply about you knowing your relationship best, and guiding you through so you can get your ex back.

You will receive a wide range of techniques like The Fast Forward Technique, The Instant Reconnect Technique, The Second Chance Letter, and a lot more. This product will exactly tackle the things that you must do before, during, and after the break up process. It also covers some of the things that you should do in case you happen to cheat on your ex and the things to do if ever your ex is dating someone new.

Though Magic Of Making Up is aimed at men or women that want to get back with their ex, it is also very useful for relationship that's going through a rocky patch. Even if you are currently not in a relationship, the knowledge you will gain after reading this remarkable eBook will surely help you keep your coming relationships fresh and exciting. I have purchased a copy myself and as I was reading it, I felt the system was written specifically for me and my wife. Whenever we have an argument, it always revolves around the same issues.

Let's take a look at the contents of the book below:

Chapter 1: Understanding Why Your Relationship Ended (And Why It's Not Over Just Yet)
The first chapter tells you why people would break up. It says a man would leave a women because they do not feel admired and a women will leave a man because she does not feel appreciated. It also says people breakup do to arguing and cheating.

Chapter 2: Don't Panic - Your Key to Winning Back Their Love (Getting Your Head On Straight)
The second chapter tells you why you feel the way you do after a break up. The Magic Of Making Up will tell you what you can do to get over your ex. This is the chapter were you will learn the “Fast Forward Technique.”

Chapter 3: Removing the Splinter in Your Relationship (Where Do You Stand?)
The third chapter tells you how to find out what caused the break up. It will tell you how to evaluate your previous relationship to help you find out if you can get your ex back. The Magic Of Making Up will also tell you how to find out if your ex still cars about you.

Chapter 4: Re-Igniting the Spark of Passion and Desire (The Plan)
The fourth chapter tells you how to make your ex want to date you again. It will give you a complete work out program and nutrition program to follow. You need to improve on your overall health and appearance to break the pattern. The Magic Of Making Up tells you exactly how to break the pattern to make your ex want to date you again.

Chapter 5: Dates and Lovers - How Other People Can Actually Bring You Back Together With Your Ex
The fifth chapter will tell you how to use other people to bring you and your ex closer together. If your ex is dating someone The Magic Of Making Up will tell you how to use that to your advantage. It also says that over 90% of Rebound relationships do not work out so you do not have to worry if your ex is dating someone.

Chapter 6: Easing Back Into Your Relationship to Solidify Your Love
The sixth chapter tells you how to call your ex after the break up and get them to hang out with you. You will also learn how a man or women should handle having sex again after a break up. In This chapter you will learn how to get physical with your ex again by applying the “Instant Reconnect Technique.”

Chapter 7: Maintaining the Fun and Love Without Dredging Up Old Wounds and Arguments
The seventh chapter will tell you how to keep the spark alive if you got back with your ex. It will tell you what to do on a daily basis to keep the relationship enjoyable. The Magic Of Making Up will also tell you what to do if the two of you start to argue.

Chapter 8: When Your Relationship Can't Be Saved - Moving On With Grace
The eighth chapter will tell you what to do if you cant get your ex back. It will tell you how to take care of yourself if your single at the end. You will also find out how to use everything you have learned to apply it to the next relationship.

Clearly, you can see exactly how much this book can help you. This is a Top Rated product in the market and has received many excellent reviews all over the internet verified by numerous testimonials.

This Magic of Making Up review is positive simply because the techniques work and are nearly foolproof.

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Magic of Making Up - What Is It About? (Continue..)

Anyway to test to believe, nobody knows your problems better than yourself so you are the best judge. This product comes with an 8 week guarantee which means that after the span of eight weeks and you aren't happy with the product, you can always get a full refund with no questions asked. This is one aspect that you can never miss because corporations don't often give a refund in case they're not totally confident on what it can do.

Conclusion
I must admit I favour this Magic book than other similar products out there but if you happened to read the book like I did, you will know why. It is the ultimate system to win your ex back. If you truly love someone, you probably would pay any dollar amount to get him or her back. The fact that relationship counselling would cost $100~$200 an hour....makes this a pretty easy choice. So disposing a measly $39 to win back the love of your life should be a No Brainer!

Results have indicated that the longer the time passes after the breakup, the less effective the techniques become. Hence, every minute you wait is another minute that you risk having ANOTHER man or ANOTHER woman making YOUR MAN feel admired...or YOUR WOMAN feeling appreciated.

Therefore, don't wait any longer.....
Download the magic book, read it and start applying the techniques taught to get your lover back Fast. If you are not happy for any reason, you get your money back, nothing to lose actually.

I Honestly and Sincerely wish you back with your ex in no time.

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